“Fear that people harbor of the differences that exist between them originates in the belief of separation and the difficulty in knowing the true connectedness of all people and objects in the universe.” Journey From Ego, The Path To Healing
I will admit that I struggle with this, the practice of being nonjudgmental. There was a time when I thought that I was. Then came a time when I knew I wasn’t, but wanted to be. Most recently I’ve come to the understanding that I’m human, and thus I am judgmental. It’s part of the human condition, an outcome of living in a dualistic “reality”. This life that we consider our “reality” is the illusion into which we insert ourselves, and one of the outcomes is dualism, thus the belief in separatism, and practice of being judgmental.
Phillip J. Watt, in his guest blog for Wake Up World, entitled Judgment isn’t the Problem – It’s Condemnation, states the following:
“Passing judgment on the world around us is a perfectly natural aspect of being human. (Whew! That makes me feel so much better about myself. – See? I just can’t stop!) We continually assess our environment and form opinions on whether we are safe, what response we should have and if we personally resonate with the energy of each given life circumstance.
Ironically we never arrive at an absolute truth either; all we can do is create the best possible estimate of how we think and feel about whatever we are examining. Therefore, we all pass judgment – be it positive or negative, independent or comparative, realistic or unrealistic, selfless or selfish, contextual or divisive. Put another way, we continually critique the people and situations in our life, including ourselves, which is why the process we undertake can either be healthy or unhealthy for everybody involved.”
Just reading the title of this piece afforded me an ah-ha moment. Archangel Jophiel, as the primary voice in Journey… weighs in heavily on the issue of passing judgment on others, or on ourselves, for that matter. She tells us repeatedly that we must cultivate an attitude of unconditional love for others, not necessarily of their deeds, but of their heart and soul, which are in direct communication with ours via the love of the One. If we judge another being, we are in fact judging ourselves by exposing and reflecting our own fear.
So I remain diligently observant of my judgment of others while I judge myself negatively for my seeming inability to avoid it. And then I learn that it’s not because I’m a “bad” person, it’s because I’m a person, a human being. It’s one of the ways we cope with living this earth-bound existence; that it’s not judgment that is the issue, but rather the act of condemnation.
Mr. Watt goes on to say:
“So if we’re continually condemning people or their actions, we inherently imply that we are better than them. This is a false state of self-worth. If we have hinged a substantial portion of who we are in the condemnation of others, then not only are we condemning them, but we are encouraging self-harming behaviors to develop such as hatred, vanity, jealousy, resentment and intolerance. This is hurtful to not just others, but also ourselves too.
Examples of self-harming judgment include: “they’re worthless”, “that behavior is unforgivable”, “I hate them”, “I’m better than them”. If this occurs we’re judging in a self-abusive way, which brings negative and disharmonious vibrations to our own energy. We’re continually radiating negative and unhealthy emotional states as a result.”
This is what archangel Jophiel refers to when she discusses the issues of judging others, condemnation; and this explains neatly how judgment, in the form of condemnation introduces negativity into our lives.
So, if being human presupposes being judgmental, then let’s focus on compassion and empathy. Let’s practice assuming that everybody contains a soul of light and holiness despite their intolerance, cruelty, filthy clothes, expensive cars, lack of patience, or past mistakes or misdeeds. Let’s assume that the person behaving badly had something awful happen to him today; that the person engaging in condemnation is at a lower level of self-development, what archangel Jophiel would call, “still asleep”.
Finally, because I feel that he says it so concisely:
“Ultimately, our judgment is simply a projection of our conditioning, beliefs and values… even though it is practical for humans to judge on a superficial level, at the end of the day it’s still an illusory snapshot of eternity. No matter if someone is a stranger or best mate, when it comes to placing any permanent defining fixture on them, including the whole of reality itself, we close ourselves off to the infinite possibilities of our consciousness.”
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